Embrace Failures as Success

How do you define your greatest success? Can we say that a person’s ultimate success is the attainment of her/his greatest dream. I believe you will agree by that definition. However, the hindrance to most of the dreams is the fear of failures.Your dream can be big or small; you may conquer it or not; but to conquer it, you should be ready to take your first step instead being scared of loosing it. A task never started will never be accomplished.There is a very popular saying, “A job started is a job half done”.Moreover, there is no point to be afraid of losing something we do not have. We must strongly believe that we deserve to live our dreams.

Also, its ok to fail during the pursuit for your dreams. Because it takes perseverance and persistence to make a great produce. If Thomas Alva Edison was afraid of failures, we would not have incandescent bulbs after his thousand failed attempts. Failures have a whole lot of things to teach us than successes can. So embrace your failures like you embrace your success, and retrospect them to show constant improvement.

There is a Japanese art called Kintsugi, which is about fixing the fissures in broken pottery by filling them with precious metals like gold. If failures breaks you down, fill in your fissures with your precious learnings and grow more elegant than before. Let us treat success and failure alike and learn equally from them to grow further.




Seeing beyond what you see is wisdom

We are given birth without our approval, yet we manage to exist by absorbing the essence from the environment, from the society. Most people agrees that the human beings are social animals, who absorb and reflect their social circles. Yet, a very few manages to be out standing and successful by the definitions of the world. The questions like, How does these limited few manage to shine; what shapes their success;  are buzzing our minds for several months. After aggressive look up for the answers to the questions, we could read that there is a pattern which makes them what they are. Thought of penning down the observations as a series believing it would kindle the thoughts of my readers.

The most important feature of any successful person is continuous learning. It is true that a person’s growth stalls once she/he stops to learn, and it is extremely important in today’s world to stay current in our respective domains for us to exist and to survive as the changes are so rapid than any other times in the human history. Experience makes the best teacher, I do not doubt it. Yet, we cannot afford to experiment and experience every success and downfall to learn and to grow; we can certainly save a lot of energy, time and resources by learning from the lives of the other people who have already gone through the same path as you and acquire the required wisdom to achieve success. We have the resources in abundance, in the form of biographies, autobiographies, interviews, case studies and a lot more stuff on the internet. At the same time we also have an equal number of spoilers, litters and distractions that dilute the above mentioned sources. Its very important for us to acquire the skill to distinguish between the former and the latter, go to introspection mode to identify between the facts and spoilers. Picking up the necessary facts will make you knowledgable, but do you think that is enough for you to be successful? In my opinion, if a person is knowledgable, she/he can be competent and can survive in his/her respective field. We have a whole bunch of survivors in that case. But our sealing to success is far more higher, and it is not just enough to be knowledgable to reach there.

You may ask if knowledge is just not enough, what does it take to be successful. It is the wisdom, which sees things beyond what you see from the books or from the other sources of information. Do not just apply the same set of rules or formula you have picked up from your introspection. Go to the retrospection mode and see how you can craft your knowledge into wisdom. Question yourself and apply your findings to form fresh ideas instead copying the conventional ones. Accumulate knowledge but most importantly acquire wisdom to be successful.


Art of getting things done

Most of us struggle a lot to make vocal communication with other people, even for the small things like asking for extending the rental agreement, requesting for some favor even from the people closer to us, asking to change schedules, and for  so many other things.Of course, Pen is a powerful communicator, but not the most powerful at all times, especially not for all your audience. Most of the times,we need to speak to get what we want, because

“Communication is the process of conveying the thoughts of the sender to a receiver through a neutral channel, so that the receiver receives the message that the sender intended to convey.”

When we speak, words will try to deliver your purpose, gesture will try to convey the context, pauses in your tone will try to convey your emotions.

Why are we troubling ourselves to ask for an obligation or a request? there are few reasons that stroke my mind,

              1. Fear of denial : If you don’t ask, you will probably not be considered. If you ask, you will possibly be considered.
              2. Lack of practice : Many do not get the chance to ask for certain things we want due to various factors like money, society, family etc. So, we are forced to stop asking things that we want. again, think what difference is it going to make, if you are denied after asking and without asking! Give your self a chance, practice yourself to ask.
              3. and yes,Ego : Following fear of denial and lack of practice, comes the ego. It is the worst and top most thing that steal your opportunities from winning your deals. Always remember, Ego will often let you down by thinking superlative to others that prevents you to ask for favors. So, Ego will never pay.

So, if we put some effort to bridge these, we could make better communicators.  Better Communicators can make better leaders! and the better leaders, the deal breakers!!!

The Oxymoron : Chasing the opportunities and learning to say “No”

Everybody wants to be successful. Success mean different to different people. But formula to success is always the same, seamlessly working towards your goal doing all the required justice. But for most of us, things are not always the way we wanted. There are people who wish big and achieve big after their hard work; there are people who wish big and achieve big due to some external factors; there are people who wish big and fail to achieve in spite of their hard work. Winning or losing is not the context of our story, but it is about making your choices. Of course,  about making the right choices.

Success ladder

The ladder to success

Nobody likes to fall into pits and everybody expects to own big things in life. But reality is different; Most of the people who own big things in life have crossed tougher roads than the rest. Those winners did not just made use of their opportunities but they chased and grabbed them even if they did not come along their way. There are people who try to make use of the opportunities available to them to prove their selves.  There are also people who close their shutters for the rare opportunities that come along their ways due to some external factors. So, it is the attitude that decides your altitude.

For being successful, we make plans, get advises, read success stories to make sure everything is in place to win things. Some says, to be successful chase and grab the opportunities and also, learn the art of saying “No”. Both sound like complete oxymoron. The oxymoron is the context of the post.

It is clear that one who chases and grabs the opportunity is the winner. So let us give a deeper insight of the art of saying “No”. We cannot and should not say to every risk that come on our way. Often the opportunities come hidden in the form of risks. So, take care while taking up a challenge or saying no for it.There can be many ifs before making your decision, not after making them. So, analyse the following factors before making choices.

  1. Make sure it is worthy to give a try  : Before taking up any challenge given to you, find out it is really worthy. Make sure it is worthy for your quality time and effort you put in.
  2. Make sure it is close to your passion.
  3. Analyze  the risks and ways to overcoming them: Do try to know the risks of the challenge you have in your hand and analyse the ways to overcome
  4. Analyze the aftermaths of your choice. The pros and cons: Tasting success in a fairy-tale ending. But know what comes on your way after the Win and act smart by putting yourself in the shoes of losers and winners.
  5. Prepare yourself to accept the consequences and failures on your path: Failure is not a bad thing and it gives you much more than a success can give. Learn from the failures. But it does not mean you can be liberal at the amount of hard-work you put.
  6. Associate your choices with your short and long-term goals: It is too close to the point 2. Be ready for the things those are close to your passion and have influence on your short and long terms. Because, success mean different to different people.
  7. Play big, if you want to win big: If you want to win big, always prefer to play big, running behind the opportunities instead of settling with small things.
  8. Choose the right path: When you have multiple opportunities in hand, go for the big one even if it is risky. As I said earlier, opportunities are often hidden behind the risks. Always remember, not to lose things in your hand for the things those are obsolete. Have a grip on what you are doing.

So, the decisions make the Winners. Learn to be a good decision maker, even when it is about personal choices, Be a winner!

Thanks for reading!!!

கனவுகளுக்கு பயப்படாதே !!!

உயரப் பறக்க ஆசைப் படு,
பருந்தை போல அல்ல,
விண்மீனைப் போல!

விரைந்து ஓட ஆசைப் படு,
சிறுத்தைப் போல அல்ல,
புயலைப் போல!

நீண்டு வாழ ஆசைப் படு,
ஆமையைப் போல அல்ல,
பிரபஞ்சத்தைப் போல!

பேரொளி வீசிட ஆசைப் படு,
தங்கத்தைப் போல அல்ல,
கதிரவனைப் போல!

திடமாய்த் திகழ ஆசைப் படு,
யானையைப் போல அல்ல,
இமயத்தைப் போல!

பிறர்கனவுகளின் கதாநாயகனாய்
நாயகியாய் வலம்வரும்
நாள்வரும், காத்திரு!
தூற்றுவோர் தூற்றட்டும்
பேராசை யென்று!
காலம் கைகூடும்,
கனவுகளுக்கு பயப்படாதே !!!

Giving up the most cherished – Have you done the deserved Justice yet?

All of us might have heard of the romantic and inspiring saying, “Nothing is Impossible, because Impossible itself says I am Possible!” . Hmm, as inspiring as always! But this is about the platonic side, Giving up your cherished dreams. Sounds too harsh and negative, isn’t it?



During our childhood, most of us dream of becoming an Astronaut, read science fictions and fly paper flights and rockets; most others dream of becoming a Doctor, and play with a toy stethoscope and needle less syringe; and few others dream of being scientist, and play labs with bottle filled with colored fluids and so on. Dreams are many.They may change from time to time. They may or may not come true. But they are always fascinating and cool. They give so much energy and confidence and bring about the most in you. Trust me!

Dreams always make us happy. We enjoy them and start working on them in the way we like.They turn too laborious after they get the “Goal” tag. The Goal always come with a deadline, which instantly follow the pressure. We often fed up, whenever the schedule is broken. In fact, when they repeat, we give them up and quit. So, why do we need the tag – “GOAL” ?

Draw a clear line in between your dreams and goals. Goal is not always about being yourself, but the dream is always you . Dreams cannot fail, since they do not have boundaries, timelines and hard coded rules to abide with. Never stop dreaming and put your best effort you can, in the journey of pursuing it.

So do not complicate your dreams, because they are your dreams and they deserve you and your effort more than anything and anybody else 🙂

Happy dreaming folks!!! and by the way, Happy Chasing too!!

A life, uninfluenced by Technology – Possible?

Technology has become invincible in everyone’s life. In my case, it must be one step up(May be few more steps up ;)). I don’t want to call myself as a Tech Savvy or Geeky Kind of kid. I did not just dig what was going around me in the name of technology; I did not just studied how things are made in the name of technology; I did not just experimented and operated things (Some hardware and software) that came around me in the name of technology; I did not just got impressed by the wonders done in the name of technology; I did not just got addicted to the name “Technology”; I am living with it for more than 6 years now. (Computers, are of course, My soul-mates!)

Now, Its time for me to imagine a life without technology. (Heart-breaking! Its not just a momentary addiction, after all. Let me not hurt by thinking too much about the pain! 😉 )

The Pre-Technology era of my life was filled with so much of liveliness and eventfulness. Had been a School student, notably good at studies with some interests for fine arts, oration, writing, drawing, dancing , philately, numismatics, watching cricket and some badminton, was good, in deed.

The Technology era of my life has been filled with my computers and smartphone, for installing different operating systems and software , social networking, reading, writing, drawing, watching Korean dramas and movies, experimenting various mobile applications, books on computers and electronics (Graduated as a Computer Engineer,after all),deriving some business ideas, presentations, magazines and articles on technologies and programming with no much time for my family and friends. I cannot remember a day without gadgets. I could literally feel those curses from my friends for not spending time with them. How about saying goodbye to Technology as a cost of their anger! Possible? (If you really want it, Find out how to do it in the article on the page 24 of sutherlandliving.)

If yes, how will my Post-Technology era be? Without computers 😮 Without Smartphones 😮 Oh No! I don’t want to imagine it.

I don’t think a permanent cut down is possible,unless all my memories clear or we return to the caves or the sun darken! But taking periodic breaks is possible. I hope to work on it. What about you?